Get Out and Do
After a few weeks, I urge people recovering from loss to get back into a routine," says psychiatrist and Boston University professor Bessel A. Vanderkolk."It’s important to force yourself to concentrate on things other than your hurt." Consider these activities:
Join a support group. Once you’ve made the decision to "get on with life", you’ll need someone to talk to .... and the most effective kind of conversation can be with someone else who has undergone a severe test.
Read. When you can focus after the initial shock, reading-- especially self-help books can offer inspiration as well as relaxation.
Keep a Journal. Many find comfort in creating an ongoing record of their experiences. At best it can serve as a kind of self-therapy.
Plan events. The idea that there are things to look forward to reinforces that you are forging ahead into a fresh future. Schedule that trip you’ve been postponing.
Learn new skills. Take a course at a community college,or take up a new hobby or sport. You have a new life ahead:any new skill will complement it.
Reward yourself. During highly stressful times, even the simplest daily things - getting up, showering, fixing something to eat- can seem discouraging. Consider every accomplishment, no matter how small, a victory to be rewarded.
Exercise. Physical activity can be especially therapeutic. "Exercise gets you out of your head and your troubles,"Aronoff explains, "and it allows you to experience your body with your two feet on the ground."
走出困境，振作起來
精神病專家、波士頓大學(xué)教授巴塞爾·A·萬德科克說：“幾周后，我鼓勵(lì)人們從失落中恢復(fù)過來進(jìn)入正常狀態(tài)。迫使你自己把注意力集中到事情上而不是集中到你的傷痛上，這一點(diǎn)是非常重要的。”考慮以下行動(dòng)：加，入一個(gè)相互支持的團(tuán)體。一旦你做出決定"繼續(xù)生活”，你需要找個(gè)人談?wù)?。而最有效的談話方式是與其他那些經(jīng)歷過苦痛的人談話。
讀書。在經(jīng)歷了最初的創(chuàng)傷后，你能集中注意力的方式是讀書，尤其是自助自立書，因?yàn)樗芙o人以激勵(lì)和放松。
記日記。許多人通過持續(xù)記錄他們的經(jīng)歷來尋求安慰。至少它可以作為一種自我治療。
做計(jì)劃。認(rèn)為有許多事情值得期待的觀點(diǎn)刺激你快速奔向一個(gè)全新的未來。對(duì)被你推遲的旅行重新做出計(jì)劃。
學(xué)習(xí)新技術(shù)。在社區(qū)大學(xué)上課或培養(yǎng)一種新興趣或運(yùn)動(dòng)。新生活就在你面前，任何新技術(shù)會(huì)成為你新生活的補(bǔ)充。
獎(jiǎng)賞你自己。在壓力大的時(shí)候，即使是最簡(jiǎn)單的日常瑣事一…—起床、洗澡、做飯也惹人心煩。想一下每一次勝利完成的事情，不管它是多么小的成功，只要是勝利就應(yīng)受獎(jiǎng)勵(lì)。
鍛煉。體育運(yùn)動(dòng)尤其有助于治療。“體育運(yùn)動(dòng)能幫你從令你頭痛的事及困難中解脫出來。”阿隆諾夫解釋說，“它允許你通過雙腳立地來感受你的身體。”
