50歲后結(jié)交新朋友的7個(gè)簡(jiǎn)單方法
As an adult you woud find it difficult to find and make friends, since at your age, you don't have that energetic mentality to make friends and doing things with them. But if you find yourself in need of a friend and you're in your 50s. Here are some simple ways to find yourself companions.
作為一個(gè)成年人,你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)很難交到好朋友,因?yàn)樵谀愕哪挲g,你沒有那種精力充沛的心態(tài)去交朋友并和他們一起做事。但如果你在50多歲的時(shí)候發(fā)現(xiàn)自己需要朋友,這里有一些簡(jiǎn)單的方法可以幫你找到。
1. Lead with a smile.
保持微笑
One of the easiest ways to make yourself more approachable is by putting a smile on your face. As UCLA neuroscientist Marco Iacoboni revealed in an interview with Scientific American, smiling at someone else can activate brain activity in the other person, prompting a similar smiley response. So, when you’re trying to make new friends, make an effort to keep a pleasant expression on your face—it might just make you more appealing.
讓自己更平易近人的最簡(jiǎn)單方法之一就是面帶微笑。加州大學(xué)洛杉磯分校神經(jīng)學(xué)家馬可·亞科博尼在接受《科學(xué)美國(guó)人》采訪時(shí)透露,對(duì)別人微笑可以激活另一個(gè)人的大腦活動(dòng),引發(fā)類似的微笑反應(yīng)。所以,當(dāng)你嘗試結(jié)交新朋友時(shí),努力保持愉快的表情——這可能會(huì)讓你更有吸引力。
2. Join a team.
加入一個(gè)團(tuán)隊(duì)
Need an easy way to make friends as an adult? Try joining a trivia team at your favorite bar. “Joining a local trivia team is a great idea because often these groups are made up of people who are laughing and having fun. Adding humor to your life is good for your soul!” says Kulaga.
作為一個(gè)成年人,需要一個(gè)簡(jiǎn)單的方法來(lái)交朋友嗎?試著在你最喜歡的酒吧加入一個(gè)瑣事小組。“加入一個(gè)當(dāng)?shù)氐默嵤滦〗M是一個(gè)很好的主意,因?yàn)檫@些小組通常都是由笑著玩的人組成的。在你的生活中加入幽默對(duì)你的靈魂有好處!”Kulaga說。
Additionally, the life coach notes that “trivia teams are often scheduled in advance and on a specific day of the week. This helps you to better plan when socials are on a consistent day.”
此外,這位生活教練還指出,“瑣事團(tuán)隊(duì)通常會(huì)提前安排好,并安排在一周的某一天。”這可以幫助你更好地計(jì)劃什么時(shí)候進(jìn)行社交活動(dòng)。”
3. Reach out to friends you’ve lost touch with.
聯(lián)系一下失去聯(lián)系的朋友
On top of trying to build new friendships from scratch, do your best to reconnect with members of your social circle with whom you’ve fallen out of touch. With people you were once close with, you can more or less pick up where you left off.
在白手起家建立新友誼的基礎(chǔ)上,盡你最大的努力重新聯(lián)系你社交圈中失去聯(lián)系的人。和你曾經(jīng)親近的人在一起,你或多或少可以從你離開的地方重新開始。
4. Join local groups on social media.
在社交媒體上加入當(dāng)?shù)氐膱F(tuán)體
According to a 2019 report from the Pew Research Center, 69 percent of American adults between the ages of 50 and 64 reported being on social media in February 2019, up from just 4 percent in March 2005. And with so many people turning to social media, it’s easier to make friends as an adult with just the click of a button.
根據(jù)皮尤研究中心2019年的一份報(bào)告,2019年2月,年齡在50歲到64歲之間的美國(guó)成年人中,有69%的人使用社交媒體,而2005年3月這一比例僅為4%。隨著越來(lái)越多的人轉(zhuǎn)向社交媒體,作為一個(gè)成年人,只需點(diǎn)擊一個(gè)按鈕就可以更容易地交到朋友。
One of the easiest ways to do so is by joining local Facebook groups. You’ll not only get to know people in your immediate area, but you’ll also get a good idea of what kind of fun stuff is happening right in your backyard.
最簡(jiǎn)單的方法之一就是加入當(dāng)?shù)氐腇acebook群組。這樣你不僅可以認(rèn)識(shí)身邊的人,還能很好地了解你家后院正在發(fā)生著什么有趣的事情。
5. Separate yourself from society’s stigmas.
把自己從社會(huì)的恥辱感中分離出來(lái)
One of the biggest reasons why people have a hard time making friends after 50 is because of the stigma attached to putting yourself out there after a certain age. However, instead of indulging those thoughts telling you that trying to meet new people makes you seem lonely or sad, remind yourself that millions of people are looking for the same thing—and, in many cases, would be happy to find someone like you to spend time with.
人們過了50歲就很難交到朋友的最大原因之一,是因?yàn)榈搅艘欢挲g之后就認(rèn)為自己在那里是一種恥辱。然而,與其沉溺于那些告訴你嘗試結(jié)識(shí)新朋友會(huì)讓你看起來(lái)孤獨(dú)或悲傷的想法,不如提醒自己,數(shù)百萬(wàn)人都在尋找同樣的事情——而且,在很多情況下,會(huì)很高興找到像你這樣的人共度時(shí)光。
6. Strike up a conversation in a fitness class.
在健身課上開始交談
Whether your preference is cycling, cardio hip-hop dance, or yoga, fitness classes are a great way to meet new people. At the end of class, don’t be afraid to strike up a conversation with a fellow participant—you already know that you have at least one interest in common, after all.
無(wú)論你喜歡的是騎自行車、有氧街舞還是瑜伽,健身課都是結(jié)識(shí)新朋友的好方法。在課程結(jié)束時(shí),不要害怕和一位同學(xué)展開對(duì)話——畢竟,你已經(jīng)知道你們至少有一個(gè)共同的興趣。
7. Join a book club
加入一個(gè)讀書俱樂部
If you’re a bibliophile, joining a book club is a simple way to find your people. Book clubs not only give you a chance to socialize, but also give you an opportunity to flex the most important muscle in your body: your brain. Research by Rush University Medical Center even suggests that mental stimulation like reading can reduce anxiety and lower your risk of developing dementia later in life, so immerse yourself in a new paperback.
如果你是一個(gè)愛讀書的人,加入一個(gè)讀書俱樂部是找到你的朋友的簡(jiǎn)單方法。讀書俱樂部不僅給你一個(gè)社交的機(jī)會(huì),而且給你一個(gè)機(jī)會(huì)來(lái)鍛煉你身體中最重要的肌肉:你的大腦。拉什大學(xué)醫(yī)學(xué)中心的研究甚至表明,像閱讀這樣的精神活動(dòng)可以減少焦慮,降低晚年患癡呆癥的風(fēng)險(xiǎn),所以讓自己沉浸在一本新的平裝書中吧。