當(dāng)你陷入困境時(shí)如何前進(jìn)

當(dāng)你陷入困境時(shí)如何前進(jìn)

If you want to know what a rut really is like, check out the films that stick in your mind. At some stage, the stars are stuck in a rut: Ferris Beuller, Luke Skywalker and Jennifer in Dirty Dancing. And since I love Disney, poor old Rapunzel is seriously trapped, and we aren’t talking about the tower and the evil step mum.

如果你想知道墨守成規(guī)到底是什么樣子，那就去看看那些在你腦海中揮之不去的電影吧。在某些階段，明星們陷入了困境:費(fèi)里斯·比勒、盧克·天行者和《辣身舞》中的詹妮弗。因?yàn)槲蚁矚g迪斯尼，可憐的老萵苣姑娘被嚴(yán)重地困住了，我們不是在談?wù)撍托皭旱睦^母。

Only to be at home tucked up doing what you usually do, slowly losing that sense of can do that was so alive in you as you left the movies.

只是為了蜷縮在家里做你平時(shí)做的事，慢慢地失去了那種你離開電影院時(shí)還能做的感覺。

So how do you hang on to the motivation to change and how do you make it happen ensuring you never languish there ever again?

那么，你如何保持改變的動(dòng)力，如何讓它發(fā)生，確保你永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)再萎靡不振?

1. Talk about What You’re Going Through

談?wù)勀愕慕?jīng)歷

Giving yourself permission to talk is very important. We are taught in 21st century life to not moan, to look for the positive, to be happy. Sometimes, it’s important to really process the other side of this. In doing this, you can really understand what is happening.

允許自己說話是非常重要的。在21世紀(jì)的生活中，我們被教導(dǎo)不要抱怨，要尋找積極的一面，要快樂。有時(shí)候，真正處理這個(gè)問題的另一面是很重要的。通過這樣做，你可以真正理解正在發(fā)生的事情。

2. Build Yourself the Right Network

建立正確的人際網(wǎng)絡(luò)

Network is your net worth. This has been a powerful phrase for me this year and resonates with so many. If you find that you get stuck in a rut or struggle to escape one, have a look around you. The people you work with, socialize with, even listen to on the radio or share your life with on your phone are all part of your network. And we worryingly seem to forget the value of this.

人脈就是你的凈資產(chǎn)。這句話對(duì)我來說是今年最有力的一句話，也引起了很多人的共鳴。如果你發(fā)現(xiàn)自己陷入了陳規(guī)或掙扎著要擺脫陳規(guī)，看看你的周圍。那些和你一起工作、一起社交、甚至一起聽收音機(jī)、一起用手機(jī)分享生活的人都是你人際網(wǎng)絡(luò)的一部分。令人擔(dān)憂的是，我們似乎忘記了它的價(jià)值。

If your network doesn’t feel good for you, then change it. No one needs to know.

如果你的人際網(wǎng)絡(luò)讓你感覺不好，那就改變它。不必告訴任何人。

We can choose to control who is in our life physically and metaphorically, and that can drastically impact on our ability to get out of the ruts that come up in life.

我們可以選擇控制誰在我們的生活中，無論是身體上還是精神上，這都會(huì)極大地影響我們擺脫生活中出現(xiàn)的陳規(guī)陋習(xí)的能力。

The right people in your network do the very opposite, they are like the critical eureka moment in our favourite films where our stars realize what they can achieve.

正確的人在你的人際網(wǎng)絡(luò)中做的恰恰相反，他們就像我們最喜歡的電影中的關(guān)鍵尤里卡時(shí)刻，我們的明星意識(shí)到他們可以實(shí)現(xiàn)什么。

3. Don’t Be Too Peoply

別太過分了

People that try to enslave you to their thinking aren’t good for you.

那些試圖奴役你的人對(duì)你沒有好處。

Ask yourself when life feels too peoply and you need a new perspective to move forward, what would be on your must do now list? A walk on the beach? Pottering in the garden? Baking a cake? Painting your nails? Daydreaming on YouTube? Reading a book? Even playing a pointless time-wasting game on your phone can be good.

問問自己，當(dāng)生活變得太充實(shí)，你需要一個(gè)新的視角來前進(jìn)時(shí)，你現(xiàn)在必須做的事情是什么?在沙灘上散步?在花園里干活?烤一個(gè)蛋糕嗎?畫你的指甲嗎?在YouTube上做白日夢(mèng)嗎?讀一本書嗎?甚至在你的手機(jī)上玩一個(gè)毫無意義的浪費(fèi)時(shí)間的游戲也是有好處的。

With all of these actions, your brain is given a bit of space to process what you’ve been working on. So when you feel stuck what will your go to action be?

有了所有這些動(dòng)作，你的大腦就有了一點(diǎn)空間來處理你正在做的事情。那么，當(dāng)你感到困惑時(shí)，你會(huì)采取什么行動(dòng)呢?

And please note, working on it some more, is not going to work!

請(qǐng)注意，一味地多做一些，是行不通的!

4. Plan in a Way That Works for You

以適合自己的方式計(jì)劃

If you want to steer clear of a rut, you need to always plan. I like fluid plans, if I have a goal that I can visualize, I’m happy.

如果你想避免墨守成規(guī)，你需要時(shí)刻做好計(jì)劃。我喜歡流動(dòng)的計(jì)劃，如果我有一個(gè)目標(biāo)，我可以想象，我很高興。

I don’t need to plan every action. I’ve learned (the hard way!) that if I plan every finite action, it doesn’t work for me; while some people like everything listed down to details of what they are doing on what day of the week. I have friends that like Excel spreadsheets. Friends that like colourful mind maps. And friends that like mood boards or lists.

我不需要計(jì)劃每一個(gè)行動(dòng)。我已經(jīng)認(rèn)識(shí)到(艱難的道路!)如果我計(jì)劃每一個(gè)有限的行動(dòng)，它并不適合我;而有些人則喜歡把每件事都列出來，詳細(xì)說明他們?cè)谝恢苤械哪囊惶煸谧鍪裁?。我有喜歡Excel電子表格的朋友。喜歡彩色思維導(dǎo)圖的朋友以及喜歡情緒板或列表的朋友。

5. Don’t Plan Alone

不要一個(gè)人計(jì)劃

Another reason a rut is so tough is because we try and fix it on our own. We think it’s the right thing to do, however the 21st Century is teaching us that personally and professionally, we achieve more, are happier, and less stressed if we open up.

墨守成規(guī)之所以如此艱難的另一個(gè)原因是，我們?cè)噲D靠自己來解決它。我們認(rèn)為這是一件正確的事情，然而21世紀(jì)教會(huì)了我們，從個(gè)人和專業(yè)的角度來說，如果我們敞開心扉，我們會(huì)獲得更多、更快樂、壓力更小。

6. Be Aware of Your Perceptions

注意你的感知

There is a very good reason why a 2 hour conversation with me can completely change the way someone feels about their life, and who they are and it is down to perceptions.

和我聊上兩個(gè)小時(shí)，就能完全改變一個(gè)人對(duì)生活的看法，改變他是誰，這是有原因的，這取決于他的認(rèn)知。

7. Practice Gratitude

練習(xí)感恩

emember positivity is a great place to start when you want to change something in your life. Blind positivity is not much use, but positivity based on facts is.

當(dāng)你想要改變生活中的某些事情時(shí)，積極是一個(gè)很好的起點(diǎn)。盲目的積極性是沒有用的，但基于事實(shí)的積極性是有用的。