如何度過(guò)四分之一的人生危機(jī)

如何度過(guò)四分之一的人生危機(jī)

Is there such a thing as a quarter life crisis and could it be the cause of you experiencing a lack of happiness and fulfilment in your life or career right now?

是否存在所謂的“四分之一人生危機(jī)”?它是否會(huì)導(dǎo)致你現(xiàn)在在生活或事業(yè)中缺乏幸福感和成就感?

According to popular psychology, a quarter life crisis is a crisis “involving anxiety over the direction and quality of one’s life” which is most commonly experienced in a period ranging from a person’s twenties up to their mid-thirties.[1] It tends to occur after we have finished our schooling and study, when we have settled into everyday life, often at major points or life changing events when we feel we are at a crossroads. We know something must change but we don’t know what or how to begin. It can feel confusing and lonely.

根據(jù)大眾心理學(xué)，四分之一的人生危機(jī)是“對(duì)人生方向和生活質(zhì)量的焦慮”，最常見(jiàn)的經(jīng)歷是在一個(gè)人20多歲到35多歲之間。它往往發(fā)生在我們完成學(xué)業(yè)和學(xué)習(xí)之后，當(dāng)我們?nèi)谌肴粘Ｉ钪?，?dāng)我們感到自己正處于一個(gè)十字路口時(shí)，它往往發(fā)生在人生的重要時(shí)刻或改變?nèi)松氖录?。我們知道有些事情必須改變，但我們不知道從何開(kāi)始，如何開(kāi)始。它會(huì)讓人感到困惑和孤獨(dú)。

The good news is this is quite a normal experience. With some insight and small steps, you can gain clarity and direction on a way forward.

好消息是，這是一個(gè)相當(dāng)正常的經(jīng)歷。通過(guò)一些洞察力和小步驟，你可以在前進(jìn)的道路上獲得清晰的方向。

Firstly, it’s important to realize you are not alone. LinkedIn surveyed thousands of 25 to 33 years olds; the data showed that 75% had experienced a quarter life crisis with the average age being 27.

首先，重要的是要意識(shí)到你并不孤單。LinkedIn調(diào)查了數(shù)千名25至33歲的年輕人;數(shù)據(jù)顯示75%的人經(jīng)歷過(guò)四分之一的人生危機(jī)，平均年齡為27歲。

Here you will find what I consider to be the complete guide. It contains the essential steps I have identified to get clear on your way forward and move through this period of your life with more certainty.

在這里你會(huì)找到我認(rèn)為是完整的指南。它包含了我已經(jīng)確定的基本步驟，讓你在前進(jìn)的道路上變得清晰，并更確定地度過(guò)你生命中的這段時(shí)期。

1. Stop Comparing Your Own Quarter Life Crisis to Your Friend’s

不要拿你自己的四分之一生活危機(jī)和你朋友的進(jìn)行比較

2. Let Go of All the Should’s

放下所有應(yīng)該做的事

3. Get Clear on What Is Important to You

清楚什么對(duì)你來(lái)說(shuō)是重要的

4. Change Your Environment

改變你的環(huán)境

5. Enter the Dream Room and Ask Yourself “What If?”

走進(jìn)夢(mèng)想的房間，問(wèn)問(wèn)自己“如果……會(huì)怎樣?”

6. Be Patient and Let Go of Control

要有耐心，放開(kāi)控制

7. Ditch Your Perception of Life Always Being Perfect

拋棄你對(duì)生活總是完美的看法

8. Make a Stand for You

為你自己挺身而出

At the end of the day, no one else’s life, desires or dreams can bring you happiness and fulfilment; only what is important to you and what you really want can do that.

說(shuō)到底，沒(méi)有人的生活、欲望或夢(mèng)想能給你帶來(lái)幸福和滿足;只有對(duì)你重要的和你真正想要的才能做到這一點(diǎn)。

By being patient and kind with yourself as you move through what can be your most exciting life-changing period, you will feel this crisis point end and find clarity on exactly what will light up your life.

在你度過(guò)人生中最激動(dòng)人心的改變時(shí)期時(shí)，對(duì)自己保持耐心和友善，你就會(huì)感覺(jué)到危機(jī)的結(jié)束，并清楚地知道什么會(huì)點(diǎn)亮你的人生。