陌生人到密友大約需要200小時(shí)

A University of Kansas professor has defined the amount of time necessary to make a friend and how long it typically takes to move through different stages of friendship.

近日，美國(guó)堪薩斯大學(xué)的一位教授定義了交友所需的必要時(shí)間，以及發(fā)展至友誼不同階段通常所需的時(shí)間長(zhǎng)度。

In a new paper published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, Professor Jeffrey Hall found that it takes roughly 50 hours of time together to move from mere acquaintance to casual friend, 90 hours to go from that stage to simple "friend" status, and more than 200 hours to become "good friends".

在《社會(huì)與人際關(guān)系雜志》最新發(fā)表的論文中，杰弗理·霍爾教授發(fā)現(xiàn)，兩位點(diǎn)頭之交成為一般朋友需要相處約50個(gè)小時(shí)，變成真正意義上的朋友需要90小時(shí)，成為好友則需要超過(guò)200小時(shí)。

This means time spent hanging out, joking around, playing video games and the like. Hours spent working together just don't count as much.

這里指的時(shí)間是花在諸如一起外出、開(kāi)玩笑、玩視頻游戲等活動(dòng)上的時(shí)間，一起工作的時(shí)間不算。

Coworkers can be still become friends, of course, but you need to spend time together outside of the workplace for it to happen.

當(dāng)然，同事之間仍然可以成為朋友，但你需要在工作場(chǎng)所以外多找機(jī)會(huì)相處才行。

"The amount of time and the type of activity shared with a partner can be thought of as strategic investments towards long-term belongingness needs," wrote Hall.

霍爾寫(xiě)道：“與伙伴一起度過(guò)的時(shí)間和與之共同進(jìn)行的活動(dòng)類(lèi)型，都可視作對(duì)長(zhǎng)期歸屬感需要的戰(zhàn)略投資。”

Give the people you like your time, hope they'll give you theirs, and stay focused on having a good time. Friendship will follow.

給你喜歡的人你的時(shí)間，希望他們會(huì)給你他們的時(shí)間，保持專(zhuān)注并玩得開(kāi)心。友誼也必將隨之而來(lái)。