幸福的戀人是這樣的

1. They don’t believe the other person will “complete” them

他們不相信對方會“完整”

Happy people complete themselves before they look for someone else to enhance their lives. You have to enjoy your own company first and nobody else can replace that part of you. Many people live their lives as if they were a character in a romantic comedy, and believe that they must eat, sleep, and breath with their partner. Mentally strong people remind themselves they are complete just the way they are.

幸福的人完善自己之前找別人來提高他們的生活。你必須先享受你的自己的公司,沒有人可以替代你的一部分。許多人生活就像在浪漫喜劇角色,并相信他們必須與伴侶一起吃,睡,呼吸。精神強大的人提醒自己他們完整是因為他們有自己的方式。

2. They don’t bring up the past to justify the present

他們不把過去用來證明現(xiàn)在

Happy people don’t bring up the past to win an argument or use it as relationship collateral. They try to work toward improving the relationship in that moment, instead of bringing up past events to justify their actions. Mentally strong people seek to live in the moment by understanding that the past has its place but will never solve today’s problems.

幸福的人不用過去來贏得爭吵或使用它作為戀愛的抵押品。他們試圖努力改善關系的那一刻,而不是把過去的事件帶到現(xiàn)在來為自己的行為辯護。精神強大的人尋求活在當下,他們知道過去的事不會解決今天的問題。

3. They don’t look outside the relationship to improve the relationship

他們看起來不改善戀愛的關系

Happy people devote their full attention to themselves and their partner, when it comes to fixing problems in the relationship. They don’t seek another person to fulfill their needs. They don’t become distant and justify their behavior by looking outside of the relationship to feel better about themselves. They don’t engage in destructive behavior to avoid the inevitable.

幸福的人把精力都投入給了他們自己和他們的伴侶,當涉及到解決戀愛中的問題時。他們不尋求另一個人來滿足他們的需求。他們不會變得遙遠,證明他們的行為通過外部的關系有更好的自我感覺。他們不參與具有破壞性的行為以避免不可避免的問題。

4. They don’t put the other person down to feel better about themselves

他們不讓對方失望來尋求更好的自我感覺

Happy people understand that you don’t treat other people this way. It’s a lot easier to blame someone else for the way you act or feel, instead of looking at why you react the way you do. Mentally strong people know that the only way to have a successful relationship is to lift the other person up, not put them down in order to temporarily feel better about themselves.

幸福的人明白你不應該這樣對待別人。這很容易責怪別人的行為或感覺,而不是看你反應的方式是為什么。精神強大的人都知道有一個成功的戀愛的唯一途徑是讓對方開心, 不讓對方失望來尋求更好的自我感覺。

5. They don’t stop communicating

他們不停止溝通

Happy people communicate with others in the good times and in the bad. They don’t avoid conversations that need to be had. They seek to better understand their partner, instead of avoiding topics that are uncomfortable or awkward. The mentally strong don’t avoid things because they are uncomfortable, but rather look at these situations as welcome opportunities to improve the relationship.

幸福的人在任何時候都會與別人交流。他們不避免需要的談話。他們想要更好地理解他們的伴侶,而不是避免不舒服或尷尬的話題。精神強大的人不因為他們不舒服而避免事 ,而是把這些情況當做機會來改善關系。

6. They don’t stop loving themselves

他們不停止愛自己

Happy people love themselves first, so they can love other people, not the other way around. Mentally strong people spend time improving their lives first, before they try and help anyone else. They know that by radiating love, it will only help the relationship succeed. Mentally strong people put themselves first.

幸福的人先愛自己,這樣他們就可以愛別人,而不是相反。精神強大的人在他們試著幫助別人之前首先花時間改善他們的生活。他們知道通過輻射愛,它只會使戀愛成功。精神強大的人把自己放在第一位。

It’s a lot easier to find fault in someone else, especially when we become vulnerable and trust someone we love. I encourage you to be mentally strong first, then ro seek someone who complements who you already are. Only through self discovery can we better understand the types of people who will enhance our lives.

這很容易找到在別人的錯,尤其是當我們變得脆弱和相信我們愛的人時。我鼓勵您精神強大,然后尋求能完善你自己的人。只有通過自我發(fā)現(xiàn)我們才能更好地理解哪種類型的人會改善我們的生活。

To successfully improve any relationship, you no longer seek to change the other person, but you will instead seek to continually enhance a long and prosperous life together.

你不再試圖通過改變對方來成功改善任何關系 ,但你將轉而尋求一起讓生活不斷提高和繁榮。