快樂(lè)的人不相信的事

生活是公平的

Happiness isn’t about always getting what you want. Happy people understand that sometimes life doesn’t go their way; life isn’t fair. What they do know, is that you can only do your best, forgive yourself for what doesn’t work, and let go when you need to.

幸福不是總是得到你想要的。快樂(lè)的人明白,生活有時(shí)候不走他們的路,生活是不公平的。他們所知道的是,你只能做你最好的,原諒自己不能做到的,當(dāng)你需要的時(shí)候放手。

2. Suffering is bad.

痛苦是不好的。

Suffering is an inevitable condition of humanity. You cannot survive this world without at least a little suffering. Happy people know a deeper happiness comes through surviving a deep pain. We learn what we’re truly made of when faced with such hurt.

苦難人類是不可避免的條件。你至少?zèng)]有點(diǎn)痛苦無(wú)法生存在這個(gè)世界。快樂(lè)的人知道更深層的幸福來(lái)自于在沉痛中幸存。當(dāng)面對(duì)這樣的痛苦時(shí)我們知道我們真正做了什么。

3. I’m in control of things.

我在控制世事。

As hard as you work, and as much as you try to plan it all out, you’re just not in control. You cannot control the actions or thoughts of others. In order to reach happiness, happy people accept this inevitable truth and learn to be proactive rather than reactive to life’s surprises and mishaps.

像你一樣努力工作,盡可能多的你想全力以赴計(jì)劃這一切,你只是控制不了。你不能控制別人的行為或想法。為了得到幸福,快樂(lè)的人接受這一不可避免的事實(shí),學(xué)會(huì)積極主動(dòng)而不是被動(dòng)的承受生活的驚喜和意外。

4. People are obligated to love me a specific way.

人們有義務(wù)以一個(gè)特定的方式愛(ài)我。

If your happiness is dependent on how other people feel about you, you will never be happy. You can’t please everyone and you certainly can’t force anyone to love you in a specific way. Happy people accept the way their loved ones feel, and work at showing their affection and asking for what they need rather than expecting people to love them the way they want to be loved.

如果你的幸福取決于于別人對(duì)你的感覺(jué)如何,你永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)快樂(lè)。你不可能討好每一個(gè)人,你當(dāng)然也不能強(qiáng)迫任何人以一個(gè)特定的方式去愛(ài)你。快樂(lè)的人接受親人的感覺(jué),和致力于表現(xiàn)他們的情感和尋找他們需要什么,而不是希望人們以他們想要被愛(ài)的方式愛(ài)他們。

5.Everyone hates me.

每個(gè)人都討厭我。

This is a toxic belief and a delusion, yet sadly a great proportion of unhappy people fall prey to this, which is largely why they are unhappy. Happy people face the world with a healthy dose of curiosity and nonchalance. They are interested in others, yet not so dependent on being loved in a specific way. Making friends takes time, that’s all.

這是一個(gè)有毒的信念和一種錯(cuò)覺(jué),但遺憾的是大多數(shù)的不幸福的人深受其害,這在很大程度上反映了為什么他們不開(kāi)心?？鞓?lè)的人以好奇心和冷靜面對(duì)世界的。他們對(duì)其他人感興趣,但不依賴于以一個(gè)特定的方式被愛(ài)。交朋友需要時(shí)間,僅此而已。

6.I can’t.

我不行。

If you believe you are incapable and let that belief keep you from happiness, then ultimately you give truth to a self-imposed fallacy. The only way to improve and succeed at anything is to try and try again. Consider this: who is your idol? Do you think he or she is so accomplished through a life void of failure? No! They simply do not let their doubts keep them from happiness.

如果你認(rèn)為你不行,讓這信念讓你遠(yuǎn)離幸福,那么最終你會(huì)被自我真理誤導(dǎo)。唯一的改進(jìn)和成功的途徑是對(duì)任何事都再試一次。想想看:你的偶像是誰(shuí)?你認(rèn)為他或她的成功是通過(guò)沒(méi)有失敗的生活嗎?不!他們只是不讓他們的疑慮阻止他們遠(yuǎn)離幸福。

7.I have something to prove.

我有事情要證明。

Unhappy people seek happiness through approval. Unfortunately, that approval is impossible to achieve because it is caused by a inner lack, which keeps them constantly striving. Happiness can only be achieved through self-acceptance. Yours is the only approval you need.

不幸福的人從認(rèn)可中尋求幸福。不幸的是,認(rèn)可是不可能實(shí)現(xiàn)的,因?yàn)樗怯蓛?nèi)部缺乏而產(chǎn)生,這使他們不斷奮斗。幸福只能通過(guò)自我肯定。你是唯一需要得到自己認(rèn)可的人。