心酸的生活，如何擺脫？

接受現(xiàn)實(shí)。

Although it may seem challenging to accept a negative situation, it's your best bet in moving toward a resolution. You can't change what already happened; you can only focus on how to improve the circumstances now.

雖然讓你接受一個(gè)消極的境遇很有挑戰(zhàn)性，但這是讓你找到解決方案的最好的措施了。你不能改變已經(jīng)發(fā)生的事情，你只能集中精力尋找改善情況的方法。

2. Don't waste time dwelling on it.

不要浪費(fèi)時(shí)間老是想著問(wèn)題。

Dwelling on a problem can only make it bigger than it already is. Not only will you feel worse in the long run, but also, you'll lose valuable time when you could be working toward a solution. Don't let a bad situation get the best of you — take steps to let it go.

老想著一個(gè)問(wèn)題只會(huì)讓問(wèn)題變得比實(shí)際更嚴(yán)重。你不僅會(huì)覺(jué)得越來(lái)越糟糕，而且你浪費(fèi)了本可以用來(lái)想出解決方案的寶貴時(shí)間。不要讓壞情況阻礙你，隨它去吧。

3. Don't compare yourself to others.

不要拿自己和別人比。

According to a quote from Steven Furtick, "The reason why we struggle with insecurity isbecause we compare our behind the scenes with everyone's highlight reel." When you're struggling through a tough situation, comparing yourself is the last thing you should be doing. You have no idea what struggles another person could be going through, so instead of comparing, you should look at the happiness within yourself.

作家史蒂文·富蒂克說(shuō)過(guò)：“我們?nèi)狈Π踩校且驗(yàn)槲覀兛偸悄米约翰缓玫牡胤脚c別人的長(zhǎng)處對(duì)比。” 當(dāng)你在艱難的環(huán)境里掙扎的時(shí)候，你最不該做的事兒就是和別人比較。你根本不知道其他人正在經(jīng)歷什么樣的掙扎，所以與其比較，不如多關(guān)注一下自己的快樂(lè)。

4. Make a plan of action.

制定一個(gè)行動(dòng)計(jì)劃。

The best way to overcome a negative time is to be determined to find a way out of it. If you don't like the way something is, do what you can in your power to change it. In financial situations, you can work on a budget and prioritize your costs. In a fight with a loved one, you can take some time to cool down and amend things by talking it out.

度過(guò)困難時(shí)期的最佳方法就是下定決心戰(zhàn)勝它。如果你不喜歡某件事，發(fā)揮你的力量來(lái)改變它吧。對(duì)于經(jīng)濟(jì)問(wèn)題，你可以做一個(gè)預(yù)算并安排一下各項(xiàng)開(kāi)銷(xiāo)的順序。如果是跟愛(ài)人吵架了，你要花點(diǎn)時(shí)間來(lái)冷靜一下，然后把問(wèn)題說(shuō)出來(lái)才能解決它。

5. Recognize positive things in your life.

發(fā)現(xiàn)你生活中積極的事物。

While it may feel like your world is crashing around you, this rough time does not,ultimately, define your life. From family to being healthy, it's best to recognize the positive things in your life. It definitely helps ease the pain of a negative situation.

你可能覺(jué)得自己的世界都要崩塌了，但是一次這樣的艱難時(shí)刻并不會(huì)定義你的人生。不管是一個(gè)美滿(mǎn)的家庭或是自己的健康，最好要發(fā)現(xiàn)你生活中這些積極的事物，這絕對(duì)可以幫助你減輕在困難環(huán)境里的痛苦。

6. Acknowledge you're not alone.

明白自己不是一個(gè)人在戰(zhàn)斗。

Having a support system is essential for any tough moment. Family members, significant others, and best friends are the people you should confide in when going through a distressing time. These people are the ones who know you best and can give you advice from an outside perspective. Besides, it doesn't hurt having someone you love and care for in your corner rooting you on.

在困難的時(shí)候，一個(gè)強(qiáng)大的后援團(tuán)是很重要的。家人、另一半或者好朋友都是你在經(jīng)歷痛苦時(shí)可以?xún)A訴的人。這些人是最懂你的人，可以從旁觀(guān)者的角度來(lái)給你一些建議。而且，讓你愛(ài)的人或者你關(guān)心的人給你一點(diǎn)支持，總不會(huì)有什么壞處。

7. Learn from it.

從中學(xué)習(xí)。

There's always something to be learned from every experience you go through, good or bad. Take some time to reflect on the situation, how you reacted, and what you can do if you ever go through it again. Collecting all this knowledge could even help you avoid the situation in the future or assist a friend who is going through something similar.

無(wú)論好壞，你總能從每次經(jīng)歷中學(xué)習(xí)到一些事情?；ㄐr(shí)間來(lái)反思一下當(dāng)時(shí)的處境、你是如何應(yīng)對(duì)的還有如果重頭來(lái)一次，你會(huì)怎么做?前事不忘，后事之師，以后你還能幫助遇到相同情況的朋友呢。

8. Look to the future.

展望未來(lái)。

Now that all is said and done, it's time to start looking ahead to the future. Leave the past behind you, and begin looking to a brighter tomorrow. Change begins and ends with you, and clinging to a past event won't help alter it. Work on building a better future for yourself; it all starts with a positive mindset.

該說(shuō)的該做的都完成了，現(xiàn)在是時(shí)候開(kāi)始展望未來(lái)了。拋開(kāi)過(guò)去，開(kāi)始眺望一個(gè)更加燦爛的明天!你決定自己生活里的一切變化，沉溺過(guò)去是不會(huì)幫助你改變處境的。努力為自己建造更美好的未來(lái);一切從一個(gè)積極的心態(tài)開(kāi)始!