三十歲時(shí)，友誼的模樣

What Friendship Should Look Like in Your Thirties

人到三十，生活的重心就發(fā)生了改變。以前覺(jué)得很重要的事，現(xiàn)在想想就覺(jué)得那時(shí)候的自己好傻。在我30歲生日那天，我才意識(shí)到我的生活已經(jīng)改變了。以前我有很多朋友，但是不能說(shuō)哪個(gè)朋友很好。20歲的時(shí)候我也沒(méi)有認(rèn)真思考過(guò)和我在一起的朋友。但是現(xiàn)在我三十歲了，我精心挑選著那些能被我稱之為朋友的人?，F(xiàn)在，我只有幾個(gè)朋友但是他們都是我希望能成為摯友的人。

When you get to your thirties, your priorities change. Things that may have seemed important before will look silly now. When I celebrated my 30th birthday, I realized that my life was about to change. I used to have tons of friends but I couldn’t say every single one of them was a “quality” friend. During my twenties, I didn’t think about the type of people I spent time with. But now that I’m in my mid-thirties, I’m very selective about the kind of people I want to call my friends. Now, I have fewer friends but they are the best I can ever pray for.

你們有一定的相似之處

1. You’re alike

不管是政治觀念、文學(xué)喜好、還是電影喜好方面，你們肯定有一些相似之處，有一些共通的地方。

There has to be some similarities whether it be love of politics, literature, movies. There just has to be a common ground.

彼此尊重

2. You show each other mutual respect

每個(gè)聰明的人都知道尊重是自己掙來(lái)的，真正的朋友間會(huì)彼此尊重。他們知道什么時(shí)候需要安靜、給你私人空間，也知道什么時(shí)候把你拉回現(xiàn)實(shí)。我的朋友會(huì)給我建議，即使不贊同但也會(huì)尊重我的決定。

Every smart person knows that respect is earned and real friends respect each other. They know when they need to be quiet and give you privacy and space or when they should shake you back to your senses. My friends give me advice but they respect my decision even if they don’t agree with it.

在一起很快樂(lè)

3. You have fun together

和真正的朋友在一起即使是在做很傻很瘋的事也覺(jué)得很有趣。

True friends have fun with each other even when they are doing the stupidest or craziest things.

能夠互相依靠

4.You can depend on each other

某個(gè)朋友有難的時(shí)候我不介意半夜爬起來(lái)幫忙。因?yàn)槲蚁嘈耪嬲呐笥阎g是可以互相依靠的。

I am the type of friend who doesn’t mind getting woken up in the middle of the night when a friend is in trouble. Because I believe that true friends can depend on each other.

他們會(huì)接受你

5.They accept you

這是摯友的一個(gè)最重要的特點(diǎn)---他們彼此接受。不會(huì)因朋友犯下的錯(cuò)、朋友的過(guò)去而評(píng)判他。

This is one of the most important quality of real friends—they accept each other for what they are or are not. They don’t judge each other for the mistakes their friends make, or their past.

很善解人意

6.They’re thoughtful with you

真正的朋友會(huì)為你考慮，會(huì)擔(dān)心你，也會(huì)和你傾訴他們的憂愁。

True friends think about you, worry about you, and tell you when they’re worried.