演講MP3+雙語(yǔ)文稿:20歲，不可揮霍的光陰

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【演講者及介紹】Meg Jay

梅格·杰——臨床心理學(xué)家。梅格·杰在她的《決定性的十年》一書(shū)中指出，在對(duì)之后的成人生活起到最關(guān)鍵的變革性、決定性的時(shí)期，許多20多歲的人感到自己很平凡。

【演講主題】20歲，不可揮霍的光陰

【中文配音版】https://www.ximalaya.com/jiaoyu/34748376/287229311

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翻譯者明寬 張，校對(duì)者 盧曉天

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When I was in my 20s, I saw my very firstpsychotherapy client. I was a Ph.D. student in clinical psychology at Berkeley.She was a 26-year-old woman named Alex.

當(dāng)我20幾歲時(shí)，我見(jiàn)到了我的第一個(gè)需要精神療法的病人。當(dāng)時(shí)我是一個(gè)在伯克利大學(xué)讀臨床心理學(xué)的Ph.D學(xué)生。她是一位叫Alex的26歲女性。

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Now Alex walked into her first sessionwearing jeans and a big slouchy top, and she dropped onto the couch in myoffice and kicked off her flats and told me she was there to talk about guyproblems. Now when I heard this, I was so relieved. My classmate got anarsonist for her first client.

第一次會(huì)面時(shí)Alex穿了牛仔褲以及略微不修邊幅的上衣，進(jìn)來(lái)后直接坐到我辦公室中的沙發(fā)上，踢掉她的鞋子，然后跟我說(shuō)她是來(lái)跟我講男性問(wèn)題的。當(dāng)我聽(tīng)到這個(gè)時(shí)，我松了一口氣。我的一個(gè)同學(xué)的第一個(gè)病人是一個(gè)縱火犯。

00:46

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

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And I got a twentysomething who wanted totalk about boys. This I thought I could handle. But I didn't handle it. Withthe funny stories that Alex would bring to session, it was easy for me just tonod my head while we kicked the can down the road. "Thirty's the new20," Alex would say, and as far as I could tell, she was right. Workhappened later, marriage happened later, kids happened later, even deathhappened later. Twentysomethings like Alex and I had nothing but time.

所以說(shuō)，有一個(gè)二十幾歲的人想跟我談?wù)勀猩?。我以為我能處理好這事。但我沒(méi)能辦到。Alex在每一次會(huì)面時(shí)都會(huì)帶來(lái)好笑的故事，因此對(duì)我而言點(diǎn)點(diǎn)頭，不斷拖延出結(jié)果的時(shí)間是一件非常輕松的事情。Alex會(huì)說(shuō)“三十就是新的二十”，而且就我知道的，她是對(duì)的。工作要以后才有，結(jié)婚以后才有，孩子以后才有，連死亡都是以后才有。像Alex和我一樣是二十幾歲的人除了時(shí)間外一無(wú)所有。

01:20

But before long, my supervisor pushed me topush Alex about her love life. I pushed back. I said, "Sure, she's datingdown, she's sleeping with a knucklehead, but it's not like she's going to marrythe guy." And then my supervisor said, "Not yet, but she might marrythe next one. Besides, the best time to work on Alex's marriage is before shehas one."

但沒(méi)過(guò)多久，我的監(jiān)督就催我開(kāi)始推動(dòng)Alex的愛(ài)情生活。我拒絕了。我說(shuō)：“沒(méi)錯(cuò)，她現(xiàn)在在約會(huì)，她和一個(gè)笨蛋同床，但這并不表示她會(huì)和他結(jié)婚?！比缓笪业谋O(jiān)督說(shuō)：“現(xiàn)在還沒(méi)，但她可能會(huì)和下一個(gè)這樣的人結(jié)婚。再說(shuō)，在Alex的婚事上花費(fèi)精力的最好時(shí)間就是在她結(jié)婚之前。”

01:50

That's what psychologists call an"Aha!" moment. That was the moment I realized, 30 is not the new 20.Yes, people settle down later than they used to, but that didn't make Alex's20s a developmental downtime. That made Alex's 20s a developmental sweet spot,and we were sitting there, blowing it. That was when I realized that this sortof benign neglect was a real problem, and it had real consequences, not justfor Alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and the futuresof twentysomethings everywhere.

這就是心理學(xué)家們所說(shuō)的“原來(lái)如此！”瞬間。在那一瞬間，我明白了三十歲并不是新的二十歲。沒(méi)錯(cuò)，人們比以前更晚安頓下來(lái)，但這并不說(shuō)明Alex的二十幾歲這個(gè)時(shí)間段是她的發(fā)展低谷。這使Alex的二十幾歲一個(gè)發(fā)展的良好時(shí)期，而我們就坐在那兒荒廢它。這時(shí)我才明白這種“善意的疏忽”是一個(gè)非常現(xiàn)實(shí)的問(wèn)題，而且它有嚴(yán)重的后果，不僅是對(duì)于Alex和她的愛(ài)情生活，也對(duì)于各地的二十幾歲的人的家庭與未來(lái)。

02:27

There are 50 million twentysomethings inthe United States right now. We're talking about 15 percent of the population,or 100 percent if you consider that no one's getting through adulthood withoutgoing through their 20s first.

現(xiàn)在美國(guó)有大約5千萬(wàn)二十幾歲的人。這大概是總?cè)丝诘?5%，或者說(shuō)100%，如果你考慮到?jīng)]人能在不經(jīng)歷二十幾歲這個(gè)階段的情況下經(jīng)過(guò)成人期。

02:42

(Laughter)

笑聲。

02:43

Raise your hand if you're in your 20s. Ireally want to see some twentysomethings here. Oh, yay! You are all awesome. Ifyou work with twentysomethings, you love a twentysomething, you're losing sleepover twentysomethings, I want to see — Okay. Awesome, twentysomethings reallymatter.

如果你是二十幾歲的話舉一下手。我非常想在這兒看到一些二十幾歲的人。太好了！你們都棒極了。如果你和二十幾歲的人工作，如果你愛(ài)一個(gè)二十幾歲的人，如果你因?yàn)槎畮讱q的人而失眠，我就想看到——好的。棒極了，二十幾歲的人非常重要。

03:01

So, I specialize in twentysomethingsbecause I believe that every single one of those 50 million twentysomethingsdeserves to know what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists and fertilityspecialists already know: that claiming your 20s is one of the simplest, yetmost transformative, things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness,maybe even for the world.

我專門研究二十幾歲的人，因?yàn)槲蚁嘈胚@5千萬(wàn)個(gè)二十幾歲的人中每一個(gè)都應(yīng)該知道每一個(gè)心理學(xué)家，社會(huì)學(xué)家，神經(jīng)學(xué)家以及生育專家都知道的：那就是把握你的二十歲這一個(gè)階段是最簡(jiǎn)單的，但又是最有影響力的你能為你的職業(yè)，愛(ài)情，幸福，甚至是全世界做的事。

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