英語美文朗讀 第438期 Confident people dont do those things(下)

Number 11 - They Don't Focus On Weaknesses

 

Most people think it's worthwhile to put more time into strengthening their weaknesses. Those with confidence, however, understand that success comes with continuing to improve upon your strengths. They are able to accept their own weaknesses gracefully, and put more time and effort into endeavors where they know they'll have more likelihood of success. They maximize their time and energy this way.

第十一，他們不會揪著自己的缺點不放。很多人認為，多花時間去改進自己的缺點是很直的去做的事情。然而，自信的人很清楚，不斷強化自己的優(yōu)勢才能成功。他們能夠坦然面對自己的缺點，把更多的時間和精力，放在能真正讓自己成功的事情上。這樣一來，他們就能最大化地利用自己的時間和精力。

 

Number 12 - They Don't Settle For Mediocre

Self-assured people have a vision of what they want, and they go for it. They don't hold back and allow their fears to keep them from trying. They push themselves to go above and beyond. They set the bar high for themselves and demand excellence. They know they are as deserving of the best - in both work and life - as anyone else.

第十二，他們不甘平庸。自信的人很清楚自己想要什么，并努力去爭取。他們不會退縮，不會因為害怕而放棄嘗試。他們不斷督促自己，向上走，往前走。他們對自己的要求很高，追求優(yōu)秀。他們知道，和其他人一樣，無論在生活中還是工作上，他們都值得擁有最好的一切。

 

Number 13 - They Don't Neglect Their Skills

So much of low self-confidence comes from not having the skills or training needed for great success. Those with confidence see clearly what they need to do to improve their chances of success. They are willing to commit the time and energy to improving their skills, advancing their training, or getting more education, in order to be more confident in their abilities.

第十三，他們很重視自己的技能。很多人不自信，是因為他們沒有掌握能讓自己有所成就的技能，也沒有接受過相關的訓練。而那些自信的人很清楚地知道自己需要做什么才能成功。他們愿意付出大量的實踐和精力去打磨自己的技能，追求更好的訓練，獲取更多的教育，這樣他們才能對自己的能力有自信。

 

Number 14 - They Don't Need Constant Praise

Have you ever been around someone who constantly needs to hear how great they are? Well, confident people are not like this – they don't need constant praise. They know that their success does not depend on other people's approval, and they understand that no matter how well they perform, there's always going to be somebody out there offering nothing but criticism. Confident people also know that the kind of confidence that's dependent on praise from other people, isn't really confidence at all - it's narcissism.

第十四，他們不需要源源不斷的夸獎。你有沒有遇到過那種總是需要人家認同他們的人？好吧，自信的人可不是這樣的，他們不需要別人老是夸他們。他們知道自己的成功并不取決于他人的認可，他們明白，無論自己做得有多好，總是會有人刻薄地批評他們。自信的人知道，依靠別人的褒揚來建立的自信，根本不是真正的自信，這只不過是自戀罷了。

 

Number 15 - They Don't Resist Learning New Things

People with confidence, are life-long learners. Even when they are experts in their field, they have a learner's mindset. They know that there is so much more in life to achieve, and so many ways to grow. They aren't entrenched in old ways of doing things, or old beliefs about what is right or best. They look for ways to stretch themselves, through new endeavors.

第十五，他們樂于學習新事物。自信的人是終生學習者。就算他們是自己領域內的專家，他們也會懷著學習者的心態(tài)。他們知道，人生中，他們要去爭取的東西還有很多，成長的途徑也有很多。他們不會墨守成規(guī)，不會盲目相信那些老舊的觀點。他們不斷付出新的努力，去尋找讓自己成長的方法。

 

Number 16 - They Don't Get Too Comfortable

Confident people understand that getting too comfortable is the mortal enemy of achieving goals. That's because they know that comfort leads to contentment, and contentment leads to stagnation. When they start feeling comfortable, they take it as a red flag, and start pushing their boundaries, so that they can continue to grow. They understand that a little discomfort is a good thing.

第十六，他們不貪圖安逸。自信的人知道，如果你感到很安逸，那么你就很難達成自己的目標。這是因為，一時的安逸會使人盲目滿足，而滿足導致止步不前。如果他們發(fā)現(xiàn)自己開始感到安逸，他們會警惕起來，并且開始不斷督促自己去挑戰(zhàn)極限，這樣才能繼續(xù)進步。他們知道，一點點的不適感反而是好事。

 

Number 17 - They Don't Tell Themselves Stories

Confident people don't lie to themselves. They don't tell themselves things like, "I'm too old," or "I'm not smart enough," or "I'm not attractive enough." They don't hide behind denial or limiting beliefs that simply offer an excuse to remain stuck in the status quo. They are real with themselves, even when the truth seems daunting.

第十七，他們不會自己找借口。自信的人不會自欺欺人，他們不會跟自己說，我太老了，我不夠聰明，我魅力不夠，這樣的話。他們不會讓反對的聲音或者狹隘的思想阻止自己，這樣的東西是借口，只會讓他們困于現(xiàn)狀。就算現(xiàn)實很令人沮喪，他們也會對自己誠實。

 

Number 18 - They Don't Put Things Off

Why do people procrastinate? Sometimes it's because they're lazy. A lot of times, though, it's because they're afraid - afraid of change, failure, or maybe even success. Confident people don't put things off. They don't sit around waiting for the right time or the perfect circumstances, because they believe in themselves, and expect that their actions will lead them closer to their goals. They know that today is the only time that matters. If they don't think it's the right time, they make it the right time.

第十八，他們不會拖拖拉拉。為什么人們會拖延？有時候，這是因為他們太懶。而更多的時候，是因為他們害怕，他們害怕改變，害怕失敗，甚至害怕成功。自信的人不會拖拖拉拉。他們不會懶懶散散，等著所謂的好時機到來，因為他們對自己有信心，并且很期待自己的行動會讓自己離目標越來越近。他們知道當下才是最重要的。如果他們認為時機還不成熟，那么他們就會改變現(xiàn)狀，創(chuàng)造時機。

 

Number 19 - They Don't Force Their Views on Others

Confident people don't force their beliefs on anyone else - whether those beliefs are political or religious. They have a clear understanding that these beliefs and choices are personal for everyone. They may stand up for themselves when others oppose - but will never challenge what other people think, nor feel the need to tell them that they are wrong.

第十九，他們不會強迫他人認同自己的觀點。自信的人不會強迫他人認同自己的觀點，無論這是政治觀點還是宗教觀點之類的。他們很清楚，對于每個人而言，這些觀點和選擇，都是人家自己的事。在他人反對自己的時候，他們可能會捍衛(wèi)自己的觀點，但是他們絕不會挑釁他人的觀點，也不會覺得自己一定要讓別人知道他們是錯的。

 

Number 20 - They Don't Compromise Their Values

Having 'defined core values' gives foundational principles to any pursuit in life. Confident people live in alignment with their values, and will never compromise themselves or what they hold dear. They use these values as they make decisions in both life and work - even if it means giving up something desirable in the short term.

第二十，他們不會讓自己的價值觀妥協(xié)。無論人們追求什么，堅定的價值觀都是最基礎的。自信的人根據(jù)自己的價值觀或者，并且絕不會讓自己或者自己珍惜的東西向他人妥協(xié)。在生活中和工作中，他們根據(jù)自己的價值觀來做決定，就算這意味著不得不暫時放棄一些很誘人的東西。

 

When it comes to confidence, one thing is certain: Truly confident people always have the upper hand over the doubtful and the skittish, because they inspire others, and they make things happen. Embracing the behaviors of confident people is a great way to increase your odds for success, which in turn, will lead to more confidence. Remember, building confidence is a journey, not a destination!

關于自信，有一個真理，那就是，真正自信的人，總是勝過那些滿腹懷疑的人、那些心懷詭計的人，因為自信的人能夠鼓舞他人，他們很有執(zhí)行力。如果你想早日成功，那就向自信的人學習，這也會讓你更加自信。請記住，自信的建立是一個過程，而不是一個終點！