英語美文朗讀 第373期 The Secret Of Happiness(下)
4.你必須找到你行動(dòng)的深層原因
A better way of saying this is you must choose what is motivating you. Is it something superficial and external or something deeper and more meaningful?
一個(gè)更好的說法是你必須選擇是什么在激勵(lì)你。是很膚淺和表面的動(dòng)機(jī)，還是一些更內(nèi)在，更有意義的動(dòng)機(jī)？
Being motivated by money for the sake of money leads to unstable emotional regulation and a lot of obnoxious and superficial behavior. Being motivated by money so that one can provide a good life for their family and children is a much sturdier foundation to work with. That deeper purpose will motivate one through the stress and fear and inevitable complications that a more superficial motivation would not.
單純?yōu)榱速嶅X而賺錢會(huì)導(dǎo)致不穩(wěn)定的情感控制和很多令人反感的，膚淺的行為。為了給家挺和孩子提供更好的生活而賺錢是一個(gè)更堅(jiān)定的基礎(chǔ)。這種更深層的目的可以激勵(lì)一個(gè)人跨越壓力，恐懼和不可避免的難題，但是一個(gè)膚淺的動(dòng)機(jī)不行。
Being motivated by the approval of others leads to needy and unattractive behavior. Being motivated by the approval of others because you're an artist and you would want to construct art that moves and inspires people in new and powerful ways is far more sustainable and noble. You'll be able to work through disapproval, embarrassments and the occasional disaster.
為了獲得他人的肯定而行動(dòng)會(huì)導(dǎo)致你做出討好性和令人討厭的行為。為了獲得他人的肯定，因?yàn)槟闶莻€(gè)藝術(shù)家，你希望創(chuàng)作出可以以一種新的，強(qiáng)有力的方式去感動(dòng)和啟發(fā)別人的藝術(shù)而獲得肯定是更持久和高尚的動(dòng)力。你可以跨越否定，窘迫和偶然的災(zāi)難。
How does one find their deeper purpose? Well, it's not easy. But then again, robust and resilient life-long happiness isn't easy either. But here's a hint: it is something to do with growth and contribution. Growth means finding a way to make yourself a better person. Contribution means finding a way to make other people better. Look for ways that can integrate those into your motivations.
人們?nèi)绾握业剿麄兏顚拥哪康?？是的，這并不容易。但是話說回來，堅(jiān)定，堅(jiān)韌和一生的幸福也不是容易得到的。但這有一個(gè)提示：幸福是與成長和奉獻(xiàn)有關(guān)的。成長意味著是你變成一個(gè)更優(yōu)秀的人。奉獻(xiàn)意味著找到一種方式使別人更優(yōu)秀。想辦法把他們?nèi)诤线M(jìn)你的動(dòng)力。
There's nothing wrong with sex, money and rock and roll (hey, preaching to the choir here). But the sex needs to be motivated by something deeper than sex, the money needs to be motivated by a value more sustainable than simply money, and the rock and roll needs to just rock. Find a way to slide growth and/or contribution under them，and bam，you get the best of both worlds.
性，金錢和搖滾樂沒有任何錯(cuò)（嘿，我在這向合唱團(tuán)宣傳）。但是性需要有比性更深層的動(dòng)力去追求，賺錢需要因?yàn)楂@得比錢更長久的價(jià)值而去賺錢，而搖滾樂只需要搖滾。找到一種方式把成長和/或奉獻(xiàn)作為動(dòng)力的基礎(chǔ)，然后，嘭，你能得到更好的世界。
5. YOU MUST BE WILLING TO FAIL AND BE EMBARRASSED
5.你必須不害怕失敗和遭受窘迫
The beautiful thing about humanity is the diversity of life values. When you live out your values and let them motivate your actions and behaviors, you will inevitably clash with those whose values contradict your own. These people will not like you. They will leave nasty anonymous comments on the internet and make inappropriate remarks about your mother. Anything you do that's important will inevitably be accompanied by those who wish for you to fail. Not necessarily because they're bad people, but most likely because their values differ from yours.
人類的一個(gè)美好的地方在于價(jià)值觀的多樣性。當(dāng)你建立了你的價(jià)值觀，并讓之驅(qū)動(dòng)你的行動(dòng)時(shí)，你會(huì)不可避免和與和你秉持不同價(jià)值觀的人產(chǎn)生沖突。這些人會(huì)不喜歡你。他們會(huì)在網(wǎng)上留下惡劣的匿名評(píng)論并咒罵你的母親。你在做任何重要的事時(shí)，總會(huì)不可避免地有希望你失敗的人伴隨著你。并不一定是因?yàn)樗麄兪菈娜?，只是很大可能因?yàn)樗麄兊膬r(jià)值觀不同于你。
"Haters gonna hate."
“仇恨者只會(huì)仇恨。”
In any venture, failure is required to make progress. And progress, by definition, is what drives happiness - the progress of ourselves, the progress of others, the progress of our values and what we care about. Without failure there is no progress and without progress there is no happiness.
在任何冒險(xiǎn)里，失敗對(duì)于進(jìn)步是必要的。而進(jìn)步，按照定義來說，可以帶來幸福 - 我們自身的進(jìn)步，他人的進(jìn)步，我們價(jià)值觀的進(jìn)步和我們關(guān)心的東西的進(jìn)步。如果沒有失敗，就沒有進(jìn)步。而沒有進(jìn)步，就沒有幸福。
The most important skill in life is not how to avoid getting knocked down, but rather learning how to stand back up. Haters gonna hate.
生活中最重要的技能不是如何避免被打倒，而是學(xué)習(xí)如何站起來。仇恨者只會(huì)仇恨。
*Wall Street derivatives:華爾街衍生品，指金融衍生品。金融衍生品交易種類很多，最常見的三大品種為：股指期貨，利率期貨，匯率期貨以及相對(duì)應(yīng)的期權(quán)交易。
