英語(yǔ)美文朗讀 第351期 Lets Talk About Forgiveness
讓我們來(lái)聊一聊原諒這件事。只要你一直無(wú)法做到原諒，你就會(huì)永遠(yuǎn)痛苦。如果你繼續(xù)選擇生氣、選擇怨恨，此時(shí)此刻的你又能有多開(kāi)心呢？無(wú)論別人做過(guò)什么，無(wú)論你自己多有理，痛苦的想法都無(wú)法帶來(lái)快樂(lè)。如果你一直抓住過(guò)去不放，你永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)得到自由。原諒自己，原諒他人，你就不會(huì)被你的過(guò)去囚禁。
When you feel that you are stuck in some situation or when your affirmations are not working, it usually means there is some more forgiving to be done. When you do not flow freely with life in the present moment, it usually means you are holding on to a past moment. It can be regret, sadness, hurt, fear or guilt, blame, anger, resentment and sometimes a desire for revenge. Each one of these states comes from a space of unforgiveness, a refusal to let go and to come into the present moment.
當(dāng)你感到你身陷囹圄，當(dāng)你感到無(wú)論自己多么積極都是徒勞的，這通常意味著你還需要原諒更多人、更多事。如果現(xiàn)在你無(wú)法自由地生活，這通常意味著你還沒(méi)能放下過(guò)去。你可能感到后悔、失落、傷心、恐懼、愧疚、委屈、憤怒、怨恨，甚至有時(shí)你會(huì)想報(bào)復(fù)。這些情緒都是因?yàn)槟氵€沒(méi)能做到原諒，你拒絕放手，你拒絕活在當(dāng)下。
Only in the present moment can you create your future. If you are holding on to the past, you cannot be in the present. It is only in this now moment that your thoughts and words are powerful. So you really don't want to waste your current thoughts to continue to create your future from the garbage of the past. When you blame another, you give your own power away because you are placing the responsibility for your feelings on someone else. People in our lives may behave in ways that trigger uncomfortable responses in us. However, they did not get into our minds and create the buttons that have been pushed. Taking responsibility for our own feelings and reactions is mastering our ability to respond.
只有活在當(dāng)下，你才能創(chuàng)造未來(lái)。如果你一直對(duì)過(guò)去耿耿于懷，你就無(wú)法專(zhuān)注于當(dāng)下。只有在當(dāng)下，你的想法，你的話語(yǔ)，才是有力量的。所以，你一定不會(huì)想浪費(fèi)你現(xiàn)在的思緒、帶著不堪的過(guò)去來(lái)創(chuàng)造你的未來(lái)。當(dāng)你埋怨他人時(shí)，你主動(dòng)放棄了自己的力量，會(huì)因?yàn)槟阕寗e人為你自己的感受負(fù)責(zé)。在我們的生命中，有些人可能讓我們感到不適，然而他們并沒(méi)有左右我們的思想。為自己的感受和反應(yīng)負(fù)責(zé)，意味著掌握我們作出回應(yīng)的能力。
In other words, we learn to consciously choose rather than simply react. Forgiveness is a tricky and confusing concept for many people. There is a difference between forgiveness and acceptance. Forgiving someone does not mean that you condone their behavior. And the act of forgiveness takes place in your own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person. The reality of true forgiveness lies in setting ourselves free from holding on to the pain. It is simply an act of releasing yourself from the negative energy.
換句話說(shuō)，我們學(xué)著去有意識(shí)地做出選擇，而不僅僅是消極地回應(yīng)。對(duì)于很多人而言，原諒是很困難的，是很令人困惑的。原諒某人并不意味著你寬恕了他們的行為。原諒發(fā)生在你的心里，與他人無(wú)關(guān)。事實(shí)上，原諒意味著讓自己不再被痛苦束縛。這只是一個(gè)讓自己從負(fù)能量中解脫的行為而已。
Also, forgiveness does not mean allowing the painful behaviors or actions of another to continue in your life. Sometimes forgiveness means letting go. You forgive them and release them. Taking a stand and setting healthy boundaries is often the most loving thing you can do not only for yourself but for the other person as well. No matter what your reasons are for having bitter unforgiving feelings, you can go beyond them. You can get off it. You can let it go. You only live in the now. And you can choose to think thoughts that make you feel good right now. You can choose to practice thinking thoughts that create a positive today and tomorrow. Know that you are creating thinking habits that will serve you well forever.
與此同時(shí)，原諒并不意味著你允許他人那令你感到痛苦的行為繼續(xù)糾纏你的生活。有時(shí)候，原諒意味著放手。你原諒他人，你寬恕他人。明確你的立場(chǎng)，設(shè)立合理的邊界，這往往是你能為自己和為他人做的、最博愛(ài)的事。無(wú)論你感到痛苦、感到自己無(wú)法原諒他人的理由是什么，你都能克服它們。你能擺脫它們。你能放手。你只活在當(dāng)下。你可以選擇去一些讓自己感到愉悅的感受。你可以選擇去練習(xí)積極地思考，用積極的想法點(diǎn)亮每一個(gè)今天、每一個(gè)明天。你要明白，思維習(xí)慣是你自己創(chuàng)造的，它們會(huì)讓你受益一生。
Positive affirmations for achieving forgiveness. The door to my heart opens inwards. I move through forgiveness to love. As I change my thoughts the world around me changes. The past is over. So it has no power now. The thoughts of this moment create my future. It is no fun being a victim. I refuse to be helpless anymore. I claim my own power. I give myself the gift of freedom from the past and move with joy into the now. There is no problem too big or too small that it cannot be solved with love.
關(guān)于原諒的積極話語(yǔ)：我的心門(mén)向里打開(kāi)。我先原諒，再去愛(ài)。我的想法改變，我周?chē)氖澜缫矔?huì)隨之改變。過(guò)去已經(jīng)結(jié)束，它已經(jīng)不能左右我了。我當(dāng)下的想法創(chuàng)造我的未來(lái)。當(dāng)一個(gè)受害者是很無(wú)趣的。我再也不要讓自己無(wú)助了。我的力量我做主。我將自由送給我自己，我不再糾結(jié)于過(guò)去，而是滿懷欣喜地面對(duì)當(dāng)下。于我而言，愛(ài)能解決所有大大小小的問(wèn)題。
I am ready to be healed. I am willing to forgive. And all is well. I know that old negative patterns no longer limit me. I let them go with ease. As I forgive myself it becomes easier to forgive others. I forgive myself for not being perfect. I am living the very best way I know how. It is now safe for me to release all of my childhood traumas and move into love. I forgive everyone in my past for all perceived wrongs. I release them with love. All of the changes in life that lie before me are positive ones and I am safe.
我已經(jīng)做好準(zhǔn)備讓自己得到治愈。我愿意原諒。一切都很美好。我知道，消極的思維習(xí)慣再也不能束縛我了。我平靜地放手，讓它們離開(kāi)。當(dāng)我原諒了自己，原諒他人就更容易了。我原諒不那么完美的自己。我在以我認(rèn)為最好的方式生活。我能放心地將我所有的童年創(chuàng)傷放下，去擁抱愛(ài)。我原諒每個(gè)在我生命中犯下錯(cuò)誤的人。我懷著愛(ài)，不再對(duì)他們耿耿于懷。未來(lái)所有的改變都是積極的，我感到安心。
You have a choice. You can choose to stay stuck and bitter or you can do yourself a favor by willingly forgiving the past and let it go and then move on to create a joyous fulfilling life. You have the freedom to make your life anything you want it to be, because you have freedom of choice.
你有一個(gè)選擇。你可以選擇讓自己困在過(guò)去、一直悲哀，你也可以選擇自我救贖，主動(dòng)原諒過(guò)去，放下過(guò)去，往前走，創(chuàng)造快樂(lè)的、充實(shí)的生活。你擁有自己去塑造人生的自由，因?yàn)槟銚碛羞x擇的自由。
