英語美文朗讀 第338期 Ignore What Other People Think Of You(下)
Number 6 - It's good for your career. Think about this for a second. Who are the people who climb the management and leadership ladders at work? It's usually those who are more self-serving. When someone puts their own needs first, they are more likely to set goals and to strive to meet those goals. They're also less likely to be apologetic about their drive, and as a result, they are much more likely to seek a promotion and ask for a raise. While leaders and managers have to take care of the people around them, they also have to take care of themselves. And if you can't take care of yourself, it's unlikely you'll be very good at taking care of others.
第六，這對你的事業(yè)有好處。想一下，做管理的，當(dāng)領(lǐng)導(dǎo)的，都是哪些人？通常就是那些懂得為自己服務(wù)的人。只要人們把自己的需求放在第一位，他們就更有可能定下目標(biāo)，并朝著目標(biāo)努力。他們有雄心壯志，而且不會因此感到不好意思。因此，他們更有可能升職，或者要求加薪。領(lǐng)導(dǎo)和管理者需要關(guān)注他們身邊的人，同時他們也需要照顧自己的需求。如果你不懂照顧自己的需求，那么你也無法關(guān)注到身邊的人。
Number 7 - Others don't care as much as you think. We go through our days thinking about how other people might be judging us. But the truth is, those people are thinking the exact same thing. In fact, people generally don't think outside themselves a great deal of time. The average person filters their world through their ego. We simply think about most things in terms of me or mine. This means that, unless who you are or what you have done directly affects another person or their life, they are unlikely to spend much time thinking about you at all.
第七，你以為別人很在乎你，其實不然。每一天，我們都在想，別人覺得我怎么樣？然而，其實，他們和你一樣在糾結(jié)這個問題。事實上，多數(shù)情況下，人們心中想的只有他們自己。普通人的世界，是以自我為中心的。無論遇到什么事情，我們都是從自己的角度出發(fā)去考慮。這就意味著，除非你或者你做的事情對他人有影響，否則別人根本不會想起你。
Number 8 - You'll never please everyone. You cannot please all of the people, all of the time. It is impossible to live up to everyone's expectations, so there's really no point in burning yourself out trying to do so. It's better to be loved by a few people that you care about, than to be liked by everyone. These people include, family, friends and your spouse, basically the people who love you for who you are, and the people who will be there for you during your worst times. Focus on these people, because they're the people that matter the most.
第八，你不可能讓所有人都滿意。你不可能總是讓所有人都滿意，不可能總是滿足所有人的期待，所以你沒有必要竭盡全力去迎合別人。你在乎的人愛你，這比讓所有人都喜歡你更重要。你在乎的人，包括你的家人，朋友，愛人，那些愛你的人，那些在你人生失意時還能伴你左右的人。把你的注意力放在這些人身上，因為他們才是最重要的。
Number 9 - You reap what you sow. Worrying too much about what other people think can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, because the way we think starts to become the way we behave. And the behavior we use in an attempt to please others, can actually cause the opposing effect! This means that if you're a push-over, then you're going to be attracting others in your life who are also push-overs. And vice versa. Being a people-pleaser is not going to stop you from being judged. Most people don't like push-overs, but, at the same time, they don't like arrogant assholes either. In the end, it is you who faces the consequences of the things you do. Both good and bad.
第九，種瓜得瓜，種豆得豆?？偸翘诤鮿e人對你的看法，會讓你真的為了迎合他人而努力，因為，我們怎么想，決定了我們怎么做。那些為了取悅他人而做的事情，其實可能會適得其反。這就意味著，如果你是個軟柿子，那么你也會吸引軟柿子，反之亦然。討好別人是沒用的，別人該怎么想還是怎么想。大多數(shù)人不喜歡軟柿子，但是，同時，他們也不喜歡狂妄自大的人。畢竟，無論結(jié)果是好事壞，你都要面對。
Number 10 - Life is simply too short. You only have one life to live, so why would you spend it worrying about other people's opinions? Do whatever you want, be whoever you want. Live your life without worrying about other people's thoughts and opinions, and you will live your life to the fullest. Remember, you are allowed to make decisions that are in the interest of your life, even when others don't approve. You really can make a conscious effort to stop giving a damn. And once you give up catering to other people's opinion and thoughts, you will find out who you truly are. The world is already full of people who obey the status quo. But the people who don't give a crap are the ones that change the world.
第十，生命很短。你只活這么一次，為什么你要在乎別人的看法？做你想做的事，成為你想成為的人。好好經(jīng)營自己的生活，不要在意別人的看法，你才能盡情地享受自己的生活。記住，從自己的利益出發(fā)，做自己的決定，這是你的自由，別人反對你也沒用。努力讓自己做到不在乎別人的看法，這是你能做到的。一旦你停止迎合別人的想法，你就會找到真實的自己。這個世界上，有很多安于現(xiàn)狀的人。然而，只有那些心無旁騖的人，才能改變世界。
Now it's up to you to choose which way you want to go!
想走哪條路？你自己決定吧！
