如果你自己都不愿意看好自己,那你永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)擁有良好的自尊。自尊意味著自我感覺(jué)很好。當(dāng)你對(duì)自己感到滿意的時(shí)候,你就培養(yǎng)了自信。自信又反過(guò)來(lái)增進(jìn)自尊心。二者相輔相成。一旦你開(kāi)始了這個(gè)循環(huán),你就能做成幾乎任何事。自尊心就是你對(duì)自己的看法。既然想什么是你的自由,那么為何要看輕自己呢?在你出生的時(shí)候,你是非常自信的。
You were born extremely confident. You came into this world knowing how wonderful you are. You were so perfect when you were a tiny baby. You did not have to do anything. You were already perfect and you acted as if you knew it. You knew you were the center of the universe. And you were not afraid to ask for what you wanted. You freely expressed your emotions. Your mother knew when you were angry. In fact, the whole neighborhood knew it. And when you were happy your smile lit up the whole room. You were so full of love and confidence.
你來(lái)到這個(gè)世界上時(shí)就明白自己有多美好。當(dāng)你還是個(gè)小嬰兒的時(shí)候,你是多么完美!你無(wú)需做任何事。你已經(jīng)非常完美了,并且你表現(xiàn)得看起來(lái)似乎你也知道這點(diǎn)。你知道你是全宇宙的中心。你從不害怕去索取你想要的東西。你自由地表達(dá)著自己的感受。當(dāng)你生氣的時(shí)候,你媽媽會(huì)知道。事實(shí)上,你的鄰居們都會(huì)知道。當(dāng)你快樂(lè)時(shí),你的笑容照亮了整個(gè)房間。你擁有滿滿的愛(ài),滿滿的自信。
Tiny babies will die if they don't get love. But once we are older, we can learn to live without love. But no baby will stand for that. Little babies love every inch of their bodies even their own feces. They have no guilt no shame no comparison. They know they are unique and wonderful. You were like that. And somewhere during your childhood, well-meaning parents passed on their own insecure feelings and taught you feelings of inadequacy and fear. At that point you began to deny your own magnificence. These thoughts and feelings never were true and certainly are not true now. I want to bring you back to the time when you really knew how to love yourself.
如果得不到愛(ài),小嬰兒就活不下去。然而,一旦我們長(zhǎng)大了,我們可能就學(xué)會(huì)了如何過(guò)沒(méi)有愛(ài)的生活。但是小嬰兒不能忍受這點(diǎn)。小嬰兒熱愛(ài)自己身體的每一寸,甚至熱愛(ài)自己的排泄物。他們不會(huì)愧疚,不會(huì)羞憤,不會(huì)攀比。他們知道自己是獨(dú)一無(wú)二的,是最美好的。你曾經(jīng)也是這樣的。在你童年時(shí)光中,原本心懷好意的父母將他們的不安情緒傳遞給你,讓你感到自卑,感到恐懼。從那時(shí)起,你開(kāi)始否認(rèn)自己的美好。這些想法和感受不是真的,以前不是,現(xiàn)在也不是。我想帶你回到過(guò)去,回到你真正懂得如何愛(ài)自己的時(shí)光。
Mirror work is simple and very powerful. Mirror work simply means looking into a mirror when you say your affirmations. Mirrors reflect our true feelings back to us. As children we received most of our negative messages from adults. Many of them looking a straight in the eye and perhaps even shaking a finger at us. Most of us today when we look into a mirror will say something negative to ourselves. We either criticize our looks or berate ourselves for something. To look yourself in the eye and make a positive declaration about yourself is one of the quickest ways to get positive results with affirmations. I ask people to look in their eyes and say something positive about themselves every time they pass a mirror. And if something unpleasant happens to you during the day, immediately go to the mirror and say I love you anyway. You see events come and go but the love you have for yourself can be constant. And it is the most important quality you possess in your life.
鏡像原理非常簡(jiǎn)單,也非常強(qiáng)大。鏡像原理,意味著在你說(shuō)出自己肯定的事情時(shí)直視鏡子。靜子向我們映射我們真實(shí)的感受。小時(shí)候,大人向我們傳遞消極的感受。很多大人直視我們的眼睛,甚至可能對(duì)我們指指點(diǎn)點(diǎn)。如今,在照鏡子時(shí),我們大多會(huì)對(duì)自己說(shuō)一些消極的話。我們對(duì)自己的容貌過(guò)于挑剔,或因某些事情對(duì)自己求全責(zé)備??粗约旱难劬?,對(duì)自己說(shuō)一些肯定的話,這是幫你最快地獲得積極肯定的一種方法。我讓人們每次經(jīng)過(guò)一面鏡子時(shí)都直視自己的眼睛并對(duì)自己表達(dá)肯定。如果某天有不愉快的事情發(fā)生,馬上走到鏡子前,對(duì)自己說(shuō),無(wú)論如何,我都依然愛(ài)你。星移斗轉(zhuǎn),滄海桑田,但你對(duì)自己的愛(ài)永遠(yuǎn)不變。愛(ài)自己,這是人生中你要擁有的最重要的品質(zhì)。
And if something wonderful happens, go to the mirror and say thank you. Acknowledge yourself for creating this wonderful experience. First thing in the morning and last thing in the evening, I want you to look into your eyes and say I love you. I really love you, and I accept you exactly as you are. It can be tough at first but if you stick with it in a short time this affirmation will be true for you and won't that be fun! You will find that as your self-love grows so will your self-respect. And any changes that you find yourself needing to make will be easier to accomplish when you know that they are the right ones for you. Love is never outside yourself. It is always within you. As you are more loving you will be more lovable. So choose new thoughts to think about yourself and choose new words to tell yourself how magnificent you are and that you deserve all the good that life has to offer.
如果有好事發(fā)生,走到鏡子面前,說(shuō),謝謝你。感謝你自己,因?yàn)樗麆?chuàng)造了美好的經(jīng)歷。我想讓你這樣做,每天早上起床第一件事和晚上睡覺(jué)前最后一件事,都是看著自己的眼睛對(duì)自己說(shuō)我愛(ài)你,我非常愛(ài)你,無(wú)論你是什么樣的,我都一樣接納你。一開(kāi)始,這可能會(huì)很困難。但是,如果你能堅(jiān)持下去,用不了多久,你對(duì)自己的肯定就會(huì)成真,這多好??!你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn),隨著你越來(lái)越愛(ài)自己,你的自尊心也會(huì)越來(lái)越強(qiáng)。你所需要做出的任何改變都會(huì)變得更容易實(shí)現(xiàn),因?yàn)槟阒肋@于你而言是正確的選擇。愛(ài)不是外界之物,愛(ài)就在你的身體里。你對(duì)世界充滿愛(ài)意,你就會(huì)變得更加可愛(ài)。所以,用新的眼光看待自己,用新的話語(yǔ)告訴自己,你有多么驚艷,你值得擁有生命中所有的美好。
I am totally adequate for all situations. I choose to feel good about myself. I am worthy of my own love. I stand on my own two feet. I accept and use my own power. It is safe for me to speak up for myself. I am loved and accepted exactly as I am right here and right now. My self-esteem is high because I honor who I am. My life gets more fabulous every day. I look forward to what each new hour brings. I am neither too little nor too much. And I do not have to prove myself to anyone. Life supports me in every possible way. My consciousness is filled with healthy, positive, loving thoughts that reflect themselves in my experience. The greatest gift I can give myself is unconditional love. I love myself exactly as I am. I no longer wait to be perfect in order to love myself.
無(wú)論發(fā)生什么,我都能應(yīng)對(duì)自如。我選擇對(duì)自己感到滿意。我值得擁有自己的愛(ài)。我憑自己的努力站立在這世間。我接納并充分利用自己的力量。我可以放心地為自己發(fā)聲。我就是我,現(xiàn)在這樣的我是被愛(ài)的,被接納的。我自尊心很強(qiáng),因?yàn)槲覟樽约焊械阶院?。我的生活每天都在變得更精彩。我期待未?lái)的每一件事。我就是我,不多不少,一切剛好。我無(wú)需向任何人證明我自己。生活總是以各種方式支持我。我的想法是健康的,是積極的,是充滿愛(ài)的,它們我的經(jīng)歷中得到體現(xiàn)。我給自己的最好的禮物就是無(wú)條件的愛(ài)。我愛(ài)真實(shí)的、自然的自己。我不會(huì)再想等到自己足夠完美才去愛(ài)自己。
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